22 April 2007

Near and Dear

Over the past month, I've really realized how much Walt and Bonnie have become a part of my daily life in the past year and a half.  Walt is the typer of the two, letting Bonnie know what's going on with whom and posting entries from the both of them.  They do so much together, having been married for about 37 years.  It is rare to see a couple so companionable as they are, together, and for others.

They have become true friends to me.  Walt was always present online, when I wanted to chat.  We could be serious, and contemplative.  We discussed and advised each other, counseled and shared thoughts.  He and Bonnie are so very caring and kind.

We could be silly and witty and nonsensical.  They would make me chuckle and I would keep them posted on the Furrbee Frolix.  We have become closer and closer in so many ways that it seems odd to think that we have not met in-person, face-to-face.

Over the last few months, since the Holidays, we've exchanged cards and packages.  They would send me treats for the Furrbees and tea for me.  I would send them a variety of teas that I knew they couldn't get in their area.

About a month ago, Walt was absent from IM and eMail and posted no entries.  Bonnie called me and told me that he'd had a heart attack and they were getting his diabetes under control a bit before they could do by-pass surgery.  I've used the phone more this past month than I have for years.

See, it's hard for me to use the phone.  It is much more comfortable for me to IM/eMail.  My own parents and my guy and my friends know that I don't use the phone and they expect to leave voice-mail for me if they do call, because they know that I won't even hear the phone ring, let alone answer it.  But Bonnie doesn't use the computer.  Putting aside my own trepidation and phone-phobias, I've been speaking with her fairly often.  It's the least I can do, because I wish we were closer, geographically; so that I could be there for them thru this.

Walt is dying.  They've thought and talked this through and have decided that this route is best.  So, hospice care has been providing as much comfort and kindness as possible.  Walt is at peace within his mind and spirit.  Should we all be so thoughtful when our times come.

Bonnie and Walt are so very near and dear to me in so many ways.  It's hard to say good-bye for this time, to Walt.  But I would rather know that his wishes and choices are being respected than to be selfish in my own wishes.

Go sweetly, Walt.  Love you.  Debra


  1. Debra,
    I haven't known Walt & Bonnie long, but I grew to care about them both very quickly. Walt & I shared some of the same physical problems. I'm so sorry he's gone downhill and I didn't know it. Do they have a prognosis/time frame?
    Kathy (Mutualaide) also had written me a note sharing that Walt was going into hospice. I am going to send a card through her. It's the very least I can do. Walt & Bonnie seem like...bread and butter to me. You know? They go together. I do hope she can cope without him.
    Thank you so much for caring enough to leave your comment. I sincerely do appreciate it. If you hear anything at all, please leave another comment or send an email if you can. I would be so grateful.
    Sincerely, Barb      

  2. Thank you for the message even though my heart is aching at your words.  I am glad that Walt is at peace within himself but selfishly I wish there was a better way around this... one that wouldn't involve him leaving Bonnie... and us.

  3. Thanks for letting us know about Walt.  My thoughts and prayers go out to Walt and Bonnie.  This is just so sad.  I know Walt was lucky to have a good friend like you and I know you will let us know how Bonnie is doing in the future.  

  4. oh, I am so sad.I, too, have Walt and Bonnie close in my heart. Is it possible that you could send me their address?
    thanks for letting me know.

  5. I am saddened to read of Walt's news about his heart attack and outlook for sustained life.    Having shared the time with them reading their journal and they mine and writing emails back and forth, I will miss the pleasure of reading his and her insight's.      Please let Walt and Bonnie know for me Debra how dear I think of them as friends.     I will keep in touch daily to know Walt's condition.      
    Sincerely,     Mark

  6. Thank you so much for alerting us to this.  I've never had the priviledge to actually have a conversation with Walt but please pass on my love and prayers to him and his lovely wife.  Thank you again for letting me know.  ----Brandy

  7. Debra, Thanks you so much for letting me know what's going on. Bon and 'Mal' have been a big part of my life for awhile now. He of course doesn't like my political views but he likes my stories. LOL

    But both of them are my 'adopted internet parents'. Sadly, I haven't spoken to them in quite some time, we just kind of lost touch in the last 3 months or so. When Bonnie became ill and Walt stopped blogging to take care of her that was when our correspondence waned and never really quite returned.

    I am very saddened to hear about this and wish there was something I could do but I am quite far away from them. If you would email me the details when you get some time I would really appreciate that. If you can't that is fine too.

    You said that Walt is dying? Was it that serious? Geez, it's really how quickly life turns! Please, please, please give Bonnie and Walt our love--LeAnn, Pat and the kids. They will know who we are. You are very fortunate that you get to talk to them. They truly are two VERY special people that are rare to find in this world.

    As for you, I send you many cyber hugs and as much strength as I can muster to give you in my few words. Know that there are many of us out there who are thinking not only of Walt and Bonnie but of the many they have touched!

    Thanks again for letting me know, it means an awful lot to me and speaks VOLUMNS about the kind of people Bon and Walt have in their circle.

  8. Sorry, I asked you to email but forgot to leave my email....here it is:


  9. Thank you for letting me know about Walt's health and prognosis.  It was very sweet of you to let me know what was going on.  It sounds like you have a very special bond with Walt and Bonnie which I'm sure has been a comfort to them.

    Although I had not been in contact with Walt lately, I have a special place in my heart for him. A unique man with a brilliant mind.  He and Bonnie will be in my prayers,  Albert

  10. oh my...oh my...

  11. At one point Walt gave me their address to send Bonnie a card and so I will look and see if I can find it...my hard drive crashed and I now have a new computer.

    Oh this is so sad!

    Please tell Bonnie to kiss Walt for me and tell Walt that Christina has said a prayer for him.

    Thank you for letting me know.

  12. I saw your comment on "Louie's" blog and just am very sad to read this. I will be praying for them both.

  13. Thanks Debra.  Knowing 1st-hand the rewards of making sacfafices to ensure a person's dying wishes are honored, I can look to this coming event with more peace than sorrow.  CATHY


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